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Sharing Your Enthusiasm with Others

Have you ever noticed that when you’re feeling down in the dumps, cheerful people become really irritating? Part of you wants them around, enjoys them trying to cheer you up, but the other part wants to put a bag over there head just so you don’t have to see their annoying smiling faces…

This week, we’ve been cultivating enthusiasm… Perhaps you wanted some simple stuff, “Prepare a meal with enthusiasm”, and that’s great stuff,

Another Smiling Baby!

the simple exercises… But then what happens tomorrow? Do you need me to give you fresh “enthusiasm focuses” everyday? Of course not!

Instead of that sort of simplistic approach to learning, we’re going deeper, we’re filling the enthusiasm gas tank inside you so that you can apply it to whatever, whenever, and wherever you want…

All you ever need to do to regain your enthusiasm and apply it in any situation is answer the simple question: “Is life a burden, or is it an opportunity?” If you think being a live is a burden, well, to be honest, you don’t. The kind of people who think life is a burden stopped reading long ago…

The people still reading this all know that “Life Itself, that being alive is the greatest opportunity you have ever been given!” When you know that deep down in your bones, than enthusiasm will come so naturally to you that in no time, you’re going to become one of those irritating ‘nearly always happy people’… So we’d better learn how to deal with being so happy that you just want to share the joy with everyone around you before people start putting bags over your head to hide from your unshakable smile…

The Trick to Sharing and Spreading Enthusiasm

So here’s the trick to sharing enthusiasm…

Listen closely because it’s a subtle truth, and if you get the essence of this trick it’s going to allow you to share enthusiasm with everyone in your life more easily than you ever thought possible…

So here’s the deal: Enthusiasm is a real thing.

The gas in the gas tank is a good example for understanding this. Just like gas it can be used up. Just like gas it can be moved from one tank to another. Just like gas (petrol) you can have a lot, or a little of it. Enthusiasm can be gotten and lost…

Those things are going to be part of your life. But I’m going to tell you a secret, you can make enthusiasm into a habit, and if you do that, very quickly you won’t really be able to tell the difference between something boring and tedious and something fun…

Now here comes the first half of the trick, the more you use it, the more it grows… That’s what makes it a trick, because when we use gas, we use it up. But when we use Enthusiasm, we get more of it. When we give it away, we double it.

That can be confusing, but it’s simply how it works… When you use it, you get more it – and when you share it, it doubles…

Smiling lady

That’s the first half of the trick, now comes the way to share it with people who aren’t in the mood to receive it, or better yet – how to share enthusiasm with anyone anytime in any situation…

Because it’s real, you can place it into things and give it to people that way… Hungh?

Okay, slow down, get your head around this: If someone is in a bad way and they literally despise the people around them who are happy, they will resist any and all efforts to cheer them up – THEY WILL REFUSE TO ACCEPT THE ENTHUSIASM YOU WANT TO SHARE WITH THEM.

So you can’t force it on them… It never flows when forced. Instead, you can put it into something, and allow them to receive it that way. The simplest example is food. A friend who you care about deeply just had a bad break-up and has been moaning around the house for weeks. Every effort to cheer them up is met with resentment.

But imagine you just prepare them a meal, filled with joy and enthusiasm, and bring it over to their house, leave it for them to eat whenever they want. Late that night, around midnight, they are having a hard time sleeping and decide to eat that meal… It feels good, they feel cared about, there, in the middle of the night, they feel better. They’ve just accepted your gift of enthusiasm…

Enthusiasm – Oddly difficult to accept in adults

Food is a simple example. Let’s imagine that happy person in the office or at school. The person who always seems bright and cheerful. First, would you rather be the cheerful person, or the person who resents their happiness? Personally, to me it seems much more entertaining to be happy, than to resent happiness…

But it can be socially difficult to be feeling great while others are feeling down. So instead of trying to cheer them up, you put that enthusiasm into your work, into projects they share with you, into conversations, and lunchtime meals while never expecting anything in return…

While it’s difficult to accept the gifts of enthusiasm when they are pushed around, it is easy to enjoy work well done. Easy to appreciate and be inspired by a student or colleague who is truly enjoying what they are doing. In this way, others receive and share our enthusiasm by simply accepting our efforts…

“But I’ll end up working harder than the slackers around me!” (a common concern in this scenario…)

The solution to that problem is easy: “So what?” So what if you do more, achieve more, enjoy life more? So what if the slackers try to ride on your successes and hard work? Who cares? It doesn’t matter if they receive the enthusiasm or not, because by putting that Enthusiasm into your work, or into that meal made for a friend, you had the privilege of enjoying the process… Not ‘for’ them… Not even ‘for’ yourself… By putting the enthusiasm into everything you do, you enjoy the reward of enjoying everything you do, regardless of what anyone else thinks, says or does… That life lived with a sense of joy is yours…

So today, for today’s exercise, answer one simple question:

“If not now, when?”

(yes, I know that this is the same question as yesterday, I’m very enthusiastic about your answer to this question!)

Tomorrow: Enthusiasm Day Five: “Enthusiasm – The Real Deal” >>

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